This week’s question is from Kim: “Dear Velvet Angel, I would like to know if the tarot suggests that I will meet Mr. Right in 2012. I have been lonely for many years. I have trust issues with men. I was in an abusive marriage for over 15 yrs. Thank you for considering my question for Tarot Tuesday.”
Cards Drawn: King of Swords – Reversed 7 of Pentacles – 7 of Wands
I have pulled the cards in a Past/Present/Future layout. The King of Swords for the past suggests that there was not a lot of romantic emotion in your 15-year marriage. And with this particular King, when he’s turned upside down, he can certainly display abuse (even though he’s displaying himself upright here). You have been with someone who was quite dominating and overpowering. Going through something like that for so many years can really leave a mark on you, and it can make you fearful about meeting new people. But in the same token, just make sure that you don’t find yourself attracted and drawn to this same kind of personality in the future.
What I am gathering from the cards at this time, Kim, is that you need to do some important work on yourself – such as working through the past traumas and the current fears you are left with. Living with someone like the King of Swords, when your own gentler personality is so different, can play a huge role in demeaning your own self-worth and confidence. So I think it’s important that you work on yourself in order to truly be “relationship ready” without having to carry that baggage of the past with you into a new relationship. That “baggage” can hold fears that might not be fully resolved for you. You might consider utilizing some self-help techniques, or if you prefer, you might want to even talk to a counselor to ensure that you get these things worked out in a healthy way. And also, if you’re not yet divorced from this man, that’s going to be a VERY important step to completely break free and gain closure on this difficult chapter of your life.
The Reversed 7 of Pentacles shows us that your efforts in trying to find or attract a new relationship may be a bit scattered and uncertain. And if you are going into this with the idea that the next or the first person you meet should be “the one,” you are robbing yourself of enjoying the journey. It’s important not to get so focused on the desired destination that you lose sight of the journey in getting to where you ultimately want to be. Dating and meeting people can be a lot of fun – but it shouldn’t be defined on an inner level as the ultimate “search” for someone special. That “special someone” will happen for you more naturally. You may feel like you are hitting a brick wall at times. But the key thing here is to make sure that you are truly free to explore a new relationship. If you are still tied to the past (such as not yet being divorced), this can really hinder you and make you feel continually limited or trapped. This card reversal is showing us that more work will be needed before you can put yourself in a more ideal position to meet someone special. So you don’t want to rush into anything and end up in a similarly undesired kind of relationship experience as what you’ve already gone through.
The 7 of Wands also suggests that you will meet with some challenges in 2012 when it comes to relationships. I am not feeling that your “Mr. Right” will be available to you in this new year. But what I am feeling is that there is some work to be done on yourself as well as tying up some loose ends that need tended to in order that you will have the freedom to explore new possibilities for love. Sevens relate to a time of reflection and assessment. This Seven is letting you know that you have the ability to take control of your life and get things sorted out. Handle what stands in your way or creates a block to finding and having a good relationship. Once you get those things taken care of, you’ll be in a much better position to attract the right kind of relationship into your life. But for this year, it’s probably going to be a time of really working on yourself and your external situations so that you will be freed up to find what you really want. Be willing to confront whatever you know you need to take care of . . . as this is a way of taking care of yourself and clearing the path to put you in a place of finding a healthy relationship experience in the future. For this year though, you need to really focus on YOU. It’s a time of assessing more so than creating, but this evaluation will help you ultimately get what you really want, and it will help you to NOT settle for less than you want and deserve.
Best Wishes and Many Blessings!
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